You must learn her.
You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.
You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.
And, this is how you keep her.
I had surgery on Thursday.
I’m home now.
Recovery is 4-6 weeks, so, I’ll be taking it easy for awhile, but, I’m doing ok.
My doctor and her team are top notch,
Anyone local who needs a urogyncologist, Dr. Kristene Whitmore at the Pelvic and Sexual Health Institute/Hahnemann University Hospital is the best. Hands down.
A long story short is my bladder was cracked in three places and prolapsed, partially, and my urethra was prolapsed partially as well. I also have vaginal/clitoral nerve damage, which will be addressed next. Surgery was the first major step. I’ve been in Vaginal Physical Therapy and seeing a specialist (who is also top notch, Susan Kellogg) for sexual pain and problems along with the urogyncologist.
All of my health issues were a result of the trauma I experienced 12years ago with the birth of my second child. I was seen by an incompetent midwife and doctor back then and my issues from that birth trauma have revealed themselves slowly during the past 12 years :(
Right now, I’m home, I’m resting, my pain is manageable, and the procedure seemed to go great so yay.
That’s all good news.
No sex for 6 weeks.
No exercise for 4.
That’s all ok.
I’m doing really well with my Eating Disorder Recovery and feel like this experience has only helped me move further ahead on my road to recovery and positive body image.
That deserves another yay :)
So, yay :)
Braden Summers traveled to six different countries to prove that no matter where you are, love is equal.
— Eckhart Tolle (via lazyyogi)